Hey, bro, I’m sorry that you find yourself here.
You have this woman in your life, who you like, but out of nowhere she’s stopped replying you.
Maybe she’s someone you chatted with through WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram…
A woman you met at school, at university, at work, during the day in the city, or at night in a club… maybe even through a dating app like Tinder or Bumble?
Or: She’s a lady you’ve been on one or more dates with…
Whoever she is, out of the blue, she doesn’t get back to you, and it hurts like hell.
And, as if that wasn’t bad enough, you may not even know WHY she’s acting this way.
Everything seemed perfect.
But now… No calls, no messages. Nada.
Don’t worry, amigo.
There are several reasons for each of the scenarios mentioned above.
And today we will go through them together.
You will learn:
- What to do when she doesn’t text back
- “She ignores me!”: The real reasons she’s not contacting you
- My most effective tips to keep her interested
- The #1 thing that women really want to feel (but would never tell you)
- And much more tips on what to text a girl who stopped responding…
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Help, she’s stopped texting and calling!
As I already indicated, there are various scenarios in which she may stop contacting you.
Each of them has its own plausible reasons.
There are several errors that may have led to her not getting back to you.
That’s why it’s even more important that you pay close attention now and recognize them.
If you succeed in doing so, you’ll also be able to discover the solution to your problem.
So, take in everything you see like a sponge—just like this colleague. He certainly wouldn’t miss anything.
Let’s start with the first possible scenario.
She stopped texting me – Scenario #1: A woman you flirt with/date
She’s someone you’ve been flirting with for a while.
Maybe you’ve even been on one or more dates.
So, what went wrong?
Well, it’s possible that:
Reason #1: You waited too long to make a move
Before you reassure yourself that this could not possibly be the reason for your situation, read on.
Because this error is a much more common cause than men think.
Because many men often perceive their situation differently than it really is.
And trust me…if you’d heard the stories of the thousands of men I’ve coached…
… you’d share my solid understanding of these reasons.
For example, I know a guy who’s probably in the same dilemma you are.
He is intelligent, funny, and clever.
However, he sees himself in a different light and isn’t convinced that he’s worthy.
What he is more convinced of, however, is the chica he is currently dating.
She’s phenomenal in his eyes.
A woman he ‘doesn’t deserve.’
He plays it safe so that he won’t lose her at any cost.
Now, be honest with yourself:
Do you recognize yourself in this description?
Imagine you tell your chosen one that you like her, and she reacts negatively.
How would you feel about that?
Could you handle it?
Or is it the last thing you want?
That’s why you hold back on taking any ‘risky action’ (and don’t even flirt with her, for example)?
By the way, when I say ‘tell your chosen one you like her’, I don’t mean that you send her a Bible-length declaration of love on Facebook or WhatsApp.
Don’t EVER do that.
Better to let her know you’re interested like this:
Why you should ALWAYS make a move
What exactly happens when you play it safe?
You may have fun together, but you never really signal to her that you want her.
Your lady starts doubting:
- Does he even like me?
- Is he even attracted to me?
- Why doesn’t he do anything? Isn’t he a real man?
Women want to feel desired.
She wants to feel sexual tension between you. If all she wanted was to chat and gossip, she could simply call a friend.
If you don’t make a move, after a while she will no longer see you as a potential (sexual) partner and will banish you to the shadow realm of the friendzone.
As a result, you not only lose your self-confidence but also any feeling of manliness.
Poof—it’s gone, along with your hope of ever having a relationship with her.
A friend of mine once went crazy for a Tinder match.
Even before the first date, she and her friends were completely infatuated with him.
Three weeks and five dates later…
…he hadn’t even tried to kiss her once.
I wonder if the girls still talk about him that much.
Yeah, for sure they do…
…except that it’s no longer praise but speculation about whether he’s gay, still a virgin, or unsure about his micropenis.
Her attraction for him dropped from 100 to 0.
So, learn your lesson from this, amigo.
And make sure you make a move when you meet a spicy señorita:
- Tease and challenge her playfully
- Build up sexual tension with her
Even if you’re afraid you’re doing the moves wrong…. If you don’t do anything, you’re guaranteed to end up in the friendzone (if you’re lucky).
Reason #2: You were too needy
If you are needy and share something with her, you don’t do it with full conviction.
Rather, you scan her for positive reactions while you express whatever you want to express.
Everything you do and say is designed to not offend her in any way.
Because you need her and might lose if you don’t please her.
Neediness means making your satisfaction dependent on another person.
And women feel that. They feel the enormous pressure that you put on them.
If your behavior constantly signals to her that you can’t live without her, then your relationship is doomed to failure.
As soon as she realizes that you need her attention like a heroin junkie needs his syringe, she will stop giving it to you.
“But Dan, you just said that women want to feel coveted!”
“But Dan, you just said that women want to feel coveted!”
They want to feel desired, but not by men who have no life without them.
Women are attracted to men who are independent, men who can relax without needing constant attention or validation, self-confident guys whose contentment doesn’t depend on other people.
Reason #3: You’re too pushy
This is the exact opposite of reason #1, where you play it too safe.
It usually occurs less frequently in men but still often enough to mention it.
Maybe it’s what you’re doing wrong…
Someone who is too pushy wants to take giant steps forward, even though their chosen one isn’t ready for it yet.
Let me explain it to you through a thought experiment:
Imagine going to an amusement park.
From a children’s carousel to a roller coaster with 12 loops, there is something for everybody.
However, you want to start slowly so that you can enjoy your stay and not get sick too quickly.
That’s why you decide to ride the children’s carousel first, but just as you’re about to climb on the cute unicorn, two masked guys push you onto the roller coaster with 12 f*cking loops.
And, before you can even buckle up, the roller coaster driver enthusiastically presses the ‘Start’ button.
A similarly fateful ride as for this dude…
You see what I’m driving at, brochacho?
If you take giant steps and, for example, try to stick your tongue between a woman’s cheeks out of the blue, chances are high that your move will flop (and you might get reported to the police).
Because she isn’t ready for that yet.
You must work your way toward the kiss, step by step.
If she reacts neutrally (not responding to a touch) or negatively, respect that.
She still needs a little more trust in you or isn’t quite comfortable with you yet.
However, this isn’t a problem.
Just take a step back and try more ‘harmless’ touches.
Just remember to NEVER escalate on a ‘no’.
She responds positively to your touch?
Then try a more intimate touch a few moments later.
By the way, if you want to learn how to approach and kiss women step by step, check out this practical guide I wrote for you:
>> 7 Kissing Tips and Techniques to Become an Amazing Kisser
She stopped answering – Scenario #2: WhatsApp, Tinder, Bumble…
She stopped texting you?
There are three plausible reasons for this.
Remember: Try to recognize your mistake.
Because this brings you closer to your solution.
Reason #1: You play to not lose rather than to win
Again, many men do this without admitting it.
You don’t want to get negative reactions, so you play it safe.
But ‘playing safe’ has a counterproductive effect.
It’s like sex with two condoms on top of each other— you want to be sure, but end of increasing your risk of unwanted ‘results’.
Seducing women means triggering emotions.
That’s not going to happen if you play it safe.
You both feel more as soon as you take the ‘condoms’ off.
(I personally never play it safe. That’s why I never use condoms—in the metaphorical sense, of course!)
It’s the same story as with men who are too needy.
They enjoy getting their lady’s attention too much, so they don’t take any risks.
Otherwise, they might lose their lovely attention.
If this sounds familiar to you, there is a chance that your messages are far too boring and far too sweet.
That’s how innocent she sees you then.
She might think that you’re super cute, sweet, and cuddly.
But she doesn’t want to have sex with you.
A sweet doggo like that wouldn’t survive a wild night…
Reason #2: Your text messages are way too long (and have no clear intentions)
How many messages have you exchanged with her?
More than 20?
Maybe even 50 or 100?
Does she know why you’re writing to her?
Your crush, writing with her new pen pal…you.
You’ve become her new pen pal. I’d love to write ‘texting casanova’, but she doesn’t feel that much backbone in you right now.
Your only intention for writing to her should be the following:
Setting up a date.
So, save your deep stories, long jokes and philosophies of life for your date.
You want to learn how to seduce her via chat and get her interested in a date?
Then, check out this article:
>> The 9 Keys to WhatsApp Flirting + Easily Stealable Texts
Reason #3: You’re too pushy
This reason is identical with the above ‘You’re too pushy’. You skipped that part? Then scroll up, and read it with your eyes wide open.
If you act too pushy, women will often cancel dates with you.
To prevent neither being too pushy nor too passive, feel free to check this Transformation Kit that I made for you.
It turns you in the magnetic man women want.
3 tips for when she stops calling and texting you
No matter which scenario describes you…
…there’s a solution for everything.
Let’s see how we can inspire her to contact you again.
Tip #1: What you can do if she doesn’t get back to you after a date
She stopped texting/calling you after your date?
Then invest less in her. This may sound strange, but women usually check in on you more if you do less.
If you have turned her off immensely, then even that won’t help you anymore.
She still won’t contact you.
Here is the best option: Don’t contact her for a few days, and then shoot her a message in a positive tone and using the flirt tips from this article. No negative vibes allowed.
If she still doesn’t respond to your attempts to contact her, you should give her even more space and time; wait a few weeks before trying again.
In the meantime, I suggest you to do as many activities as you can.
For example, get to know other ladies and go on a first date with them.
- Do epic things with your friends
- Travel the world
- Follow your passions
Bonus points are earned by sharing your adventures on social media.
Another reason for her not replying could be that you confessed your feelings to her too quickly.
This not only takes her by surprise but also automatically puts you in a weaker position…because she can either return your love or not.
On the other hand, if she’s the first of you two to reveal her feelings, YOU are in the stronger position.
That DOESN’T mean, however, that you should never show her your affection.
But, you can show it to her in a much more subtle and attractive way.
This article tells you how:
>> 15 Powerful Yet Subtle Ways to Tell a Girl You Like Her
Tip #2: Do this if she doesn’t get back to you when you chat
In this scenario, it’s likely that your way of flirting via text bores her.
That’s when this guide comes in place:
>> 22 Flirty Text Messages (+ Examples) That Will Make Her Want You More
What? She doesn’t even respond to your pimped messages? (Not even after you have tried again after a few days/ weeks – as suggested in tip #1?)
Then forget about her.
And even if this may feel like the end of the world to you, it’s not.
Take an ice-cold shower, wash your balls, and get on with your life!
Tip #3: How to make sure she ALWAYS gets in touch with you
You are now armed to the teeth for when the war of not texting and ignoring breaks out.
In your two hands, you now hold loaded shotguns with which you can break the silence as effectively as possible.
However, there’s a powerful tip that I don’t want to keep from you.
A tip that first and foremost keeps you from ending up in the position where women stop texting and calling you in the first place.
You now know what you might have done wrong and how to save your situation.
But if you want to spare yourself the hassle in advance, you need to know how to seduce women properly in the first place.
You must understand what distinguishes an attractive, sex worthy man from a lonely virgin and how you can become one.
And this is exactly why I have put together a powerful transformation package for you.
A free Kit with my #1 flirting advice.
However, this package is not suitable for you if you count yourself among the group of men who want to have a mediocre love life forever.
Only if you are a determined mofo‘ who can’t wait to change your dating life for the better have you come to the right place:
See you there.
Dan de Ram